Emotional Safety
As you know from living with abuse, it can be emotionally draining. In this section there are ideas that some women have found helpful to protect their emotional well-being.
If you are living with an abusive partner or have left an abusive relationship, you are probably doing many things on a daily basis to keep yourself and/or your children as safe as possible.
Each person’s situation is unique. You may want to ask yourself:
- What ways have I found respectful support in the past?
- What ways have I reduced feeling isolated in the past?
- What ways have I taken care of my health in the past?
- What ways have I safely processed my emotions in the past?
You will know best whether the following ideas will help you in your situation.
Ways some women have found respectful support:
- Called the Family Violence Helpline at 403-234-SAFE (7233).
- Attended counselling alone or in a group (for herself or her children).
- Joined a support group.
- Spent time with people who made her feel good and provided support.
Ways some women have reduced feelings of isolation:
- Became involved in community activities.
- Took a part-time job.
- Enrolled in school.
- Spent time with family or friends.
Ways some women have taken care of themselves:
- Do something just for herself: a walk, read a book, meditate or play music.
- Took part in social activities she enjoyed: a movie, dinner or exercise.
- Took time to play with her children, do artwork or take a bath.
Ways some women have processed their emotions:
- Kept a journal to write about her feelings where her abuser couldn’t find it
- Took time to prepare herself emotionally before entering a stressful situation, e.g. court, talking to her abuser / lawyers
- Wrote something positive about herself everyday – your own personal affirmations
- Found safe ways to express her anger e.g. hitting pillows on the bed when no one is home or doing strenuous physical exercise.
Ways some women have taken care of their health:
- Tried to get enough sleep and good food.
- Tried not to use food or alcohol excessively.
- Tried to avoid excessive shopping.
- Tried exercising.
- Tried not to be too busy to avoid stress.
Everyone’s situation is different. You may want to consider the following:
- How can I prepare if I have to communicate with my abuser in person or by telephone?
- What can I do if I feel that others are trying to control me?
- Whenever I need support, who can I call?
- What would I like to learn or do that would be supportive to me?
Family Violence Helpline counsellors are available 24 hours a day by calling 403-234-SAFE (7233).
