FearIsNotLove offers help for young people

In the community. Partnered with local schools. In-person. Virtually. And by phone.

We know youth may be experiencing struggles in their close relationships, and may feel like they would like to talk to someone about these challenges. This is why we enable youth aged 12 -21 to access judgment-free therapy (parental consent is still required).

Changing the conversation about the disrespect, abuse and violence that can happen in close relationships means engaging our younger community members and giving them an opportunity to talk about their relationships with a therapist who will help to highlight their strengths, responses and abilities.  

Who it’s for

One-on-one sessions with a Healthy Relationships Program therapist are available for 6 months or 12 sessions (whichever comes first), in-person at select Calgary Board of Education schools (see list below), at our downtown location, or virtually.

The Healthy Relationships Program is designed for youth who:

• Are 12-21
• Are concerned about healthy dating relationships
• Have difficulty maintaining healthy dating relationships or have experienced abusive behaviour in dating
• Are concerned about violence within the family or the potential of violence within the family
• Have experienced conflict and/or abuse within the family
• Have struggled to create or maintain healthy relationships with others at school, at home, or in the community

How therapy works

Therapy sessions are offered in-person, through virtual technology, and over the phone.

Fear is not okay in relationships

FearIsNotLove is a standard that everyone, especially young people, can use to assess the health of their relationships. Through education, counselling and support of young people in our community, we can help youth to have respectful, healthy relationships now and in their futures.  

Is this a good fit for you?

You’ll find new allies here. We get what you’re going through and we’re eager to listen.

This is a blame-free, judgement-free zone. We stand shoulder to shoulder with you. We’ve got your back and we’re here to help you.

We get a lot of relationship questions from students like you:

     “What exactly is a toxic relationship? How do I know if I am in one?”

     “What do you think about ‘frenemies’… can you actually be a friend and an enemy?”

     “When someone is asking me constantly about what I’m doing, my friend says they are controlling. But where is the line? Don’t some people just ask a lot of questions?”

     “Why don’t my parents get the pressure I am under? That I can only take so much?”

     “Drama… Why I am always to blame for the drama?”

Having someone to talk to about your relationships with friends, parents or dating partners can help.

Contact us for help

Any youth can connect with their school’s guidance counsellor for a direct referral or alternatively, contact us directly to self-refer at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it., or by filling out This Contact Form.

They can also call us:

Connect Domestic Violence and Abuse Helpline: 403.234.SAFE (7233), text 403.604.6689, or email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Toll-free: 1.866.606.SAFE (7233)

TTY: 403.262.2768

Parents, teachers, guidance counsellors and other agencies: You may also refer youth to the program, however youth themselves must agree that they would like to participate in counselling.

On location at:

Bowness High School
Robert Thirsk High School
Lord Beaverbrook High School
Queen Elizabeth High School
James Fowler High School
Many Horses High School

Other Partner Schools:

Forest Lawn High School
Henry Wise Wood High School
Dr. E.P. Scarlett High School
Crescent Heights High School
John G. Diefenbaker High School
North Trail High School
EP Scarlet High School
Forest Lawn High School
Henry Wisewood High School
James Fowler High School
John G. Deifenbaker High School

Students from any school can access one-on-one counselling.

If you are a school staff that is interested in partnership with the Healthy Relationships Program, please contact This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.